lil-bit-ghei:

dreameater1988:

thatthinginyourshoe:

lil-bit-ghei:

lil-bit-ghei:

"What were you wearing?"
I wore a red dress to work today. It has a zipper at either side of my chest that can unzip and reveal a thin strip of skin. A coworker, without warning, tried pulling at the zipper and when it wouldn’t zip, instead revealed a good portion of my collarbone and shoulder as well as my bra strap. An hour later, the same coworker came up and told me to not wear clothes with zippers because he’ll go right ahead and unzip them. I shot back that unzipping me without my permission is sexual harassment. Apparently a manager heard and berated my coworker. At the end of my shift, my coworker told me that my little comment got him in trouble and that he no longer feels comfortable saying anything to me other than “hello” and “goodbye.”
I am supposed to feel guilty for pointing out that he can’t lay his fucking hands on me.

So I wore the infamous dress at work yesterday and ANOTHER MALE COWORKER DECIDED TO PULL AT ONE OF MY FUCKING ZIPPERS.We were surrounded by other (also male) coworkers (that did nothing) and I swatted his hand away while promptly informing him that he didn’t have permission to touch me.
He then asked, since he knows I cosplay, if it would be any different if I wore a revealing costume. I gave him a dirty look and told him that no matter what *I* decide to wear, no one is allowed “to lay a finger on me unless they want my foot up their ass.”
Being that I’m quite professional at work, they were all surprised by my language and the ferocity with which I spat my promise.

you fucking go girl

Had I tried to pull at those zippers (which I probably would have cause they’re funny little zippers) - I bet I wouldn’t have been scolded. Because I’m a woman. And since I’m a straight woman, there would have been no sexual thought at all in my doing. Would I have gotten a lecture on sexual harrassment? Highly unlikely. Now, I am very easygoing with men in general. I don’t fear them. I don’t feel threatened by them. I don’t assume that everyone automatically wants to have sex with me just because I’m pretty and have female parts. Why? Because I know men can joke around and have a laugh without wanting to immediately jump you. I think society has gone too far in animalizing men. I don’t get many male customers at work, but outside of my workplace, in my circle of aquaintances, through my hobbies - I get thrown together with men in their 40s and 50s a lot and I have never even remotely felt harrassed sexually. Some women out there need to calm down and realize that men are not 100% sexual predators. 
As for the lady with the red dress. If you’re not okay with it, tell them. But at least tell the manager that everything was a misunderstanding.

I’m happy for you in that you’ve never really felt sexually harassed but I stand by what I said. And it wasn’t a misunderstanding. Someone pulled on a zipper and showed a lot of my skin without warning or permission. Doesn’t matter that they were both men in the instances because it’s my dress on my body which is mine.What mostly pissed me off was what they said afterward. One guy said he’d remove all future zippers and the other asked if touching me was fine if I wore revealing cosplay. I’m not a manhater. I don’t think every man is a rapist.  I know that people in general like to joke around, yet none of my male friends would ever lay a finger on me without permission. Hell, even my boyfriend waited for explicit consent to just kiss me. So it doesn’t matter to me if “guys like to joke around” because everyone needs to know about what boundaries cannot be crossed. Had a woman said either of those things to me, I would have put her in her place. And her place would be a safe distance away from my body.

lil-bit-ghei:

dreameater1988:

thatthinginyourshoe:

lil-bit-ghei:

lil-bit-ghei:

"What were you wearing?"

I wore a red dress to work today. It has a zipper at either side of my chest that can unzip and reveal a thin strip of skin. A coworker, without warning, tried pulling at the zipper and when it wouldn’t zip, instead revealed a good portion of my collarbone and shoulder as well as my bra strap. An hour later, the same coworker came up and told me to not wear clothes with zippers because he’ll go right ahead and unzip them. I shot back that unzipping me without my permission is sexual harassment. Apparently a manager heard and berated my coworker. At the end of my shift, my coworker told me that my little comment got him in trouble and that he no longer feels comfortable saying anything to me other than “hello” and “goodbye.”

I am supposed to feel guilty for pointing out that he can’t lay his fucking hands on me.

So I wore the infamous dress at work yesterday and ANOTHER MALE COWORKER DECIDED TO PULL AT ONE OF MY FUCKING ZIPPERS.
We were surrounded by other (also male) coworkers (that did nothing) and I swatted his hand away while promptly informing him that he didn’t have permission to touch me.

He then asked, since he knows I cosplay, if it would be any different if I wore a revealing costume. I gave him a dirty look and told him that no matter what *I* decide to wear, no one is allowed “to lay a finger on me unless they want my foot up their ass.”

Being that I’m quite professional at work, they were all surprised by my language and the ferocity with which I spat my promise.

you fucking go girl

Had I tried to pull at those zippers (which I probably would have cause they’re funny little zippers) - I bet I wouldn’t have been scolded. Because I’m a woman. And since I’m a straight woman, there would have been no sexual thought at all in my doing. Would I have gotten a lecture on sexual harrassment? Highly unlikely. Now, I am very easygoing with men in general. I don’t fear them. I don’t feel threatened by them. I don’t assume that everyone automatically wants to have sex with me just because I’m pretty and have female parts. Why? Because I know men can joke around and have a laugh without wanting to immediately jump you. I think society has gone too far in animalizing men. I don’t get many male customers at work, but outside of my workplace, in my circle of aquaintances, through my hobbies - I get thrown together with men in their 40s and 50s a lot and I have never even remotely felt harrassed sexually. Some women out there need to calm down and realize that men are not 100% sexual predators.

As for the lady with the red dress. If you’re not okay with it, tell them. But at least tell the manager that everything was a misunderstanding.

I’m happy for you in that you’ve never really felt sexually harassed but I stand by what I said. And it wasn’t a misunderstanding. Someone pulled on a zipper and showed a lot of my skin without warning or permission. Doesn’t matter that they were both men in the instances because it’s my dress on my body which is mine.
What mostly pissed me off was what they said afterward. One guy said he’d remove all future zippers and the other asked if touching me was fine if I wore revealing cosplay.
I’m not a manhater. I don’t think every man is a rapist. I know that people in general like to joke around, yet none of my male friends would ever lay a finger on me without permission. Hell, even my boyfriend waited for explicit consent to just kiss me. So it doesn’t matter to me if “guys like to joke around” because everyone needs to know about what boundaries cannot be crossed. Had a woman said either of those things to me, I would have put her in her place. And her place would be a safe distance away from my body.

frighteningfox:

jontronshat:

cunicular:

Your first time is NOT supposed to hurt

You are NOT supposed to bleed

If you bleed, that is NOT your hymen being ‘popped’, it is a tear due to lack of sexual arousal and natural lubrication.

This is all a MYTH perpetrated by men so they don’t have to make sure you are comfortable and sufficiently aroused enough before you have sex with them. It is an excuse to disregard and hurt you.

I just really want women to know this.

wait…. really?

yes really